Christmas

Dave and I have been married for 2 years and we have yet to figure out a way to really blend our family traditions around Christmas. I come from a blended family and most of our Christmas activities were on Christmas day. Dave comes from a very close knit family that does most of their Christmas on Christmas Eve, everyone spends the night in one house, then goes to see the extended family on Christmas Day.
We have come up with a compromise that we think will work and honor the traditions of both families. We would spend Christmas Eve with his family, do the gifts, dinner, church, etc. Then we would come home and stay in our own house. Christmas morning, our daughter would get gifts from Santa, we would open stocking stuff, then rejoin his family to go see the extended family then Christmas night we would open gifts from my family.
Our problem is that we need to present the compromise to Dave's family and we aren't sure how they will accept us not doing EVERYTHING they way they do. It seems like because my family is so far away they have a hard time accepting my need to honor my families traditions.